Memoirs of a Socialite: Ex Factor

So the other day I talked to someone I dated years ago..... It was cool to kinda catch up and talk as friends given the relationship we had. In this phone call they shared that they read my blog often..... This kinda shocked me. I never really set out to have a following with this thing, just an outlet really. So I had to ask.... "what do u think?" "Its really cool..... But u talk about dating a whole lot." Its this one thing that stuck out in my head. Out of everything we talked about, and we talked about a lot, this one thought rattled around in my mind.

So y do I talk talk about dating so much? This was my thought for a while....... Then it really just came to me. I'm one of those people that has to understand something. I have to ask questions until I can really make sense of it all. I want to understand it all so I can learn from it and apply what I've learned to real life. So ok...... I get it. I want to understand how I can be "such a great catch" yet nobody has scooped me up and kept it goin. Now with this epiphany came more searching. So what I thought I would do is a little compare and contrast of the past. Who I dated..... who they were.... the good the bad and the ugly. Now I know opening this can of worms will be followed by some attitudes, phone calls, text messages..... But it is what it is.

2001: The Virgin Dater!

This was someone who has become one of my nearest and dearest friends. This was my first attempt at a "Grow up" relationship. Now I stress the friendship.... because the relationship was so BAD!!! lol. It was like dating a homie. We lived in 2 different states, never saw each other, had really good phone conversations..... but it was something missing. We laugh about it now, but what were we doing? I mean REALLY!!!

2002: The Serial Bed Hopper!

Young and Inexperienced. What did I do next? Started dating a Hoe. I mean a HOE!!! I don't know to this day how many times I was cheated on. I mean at 20 years old, you can't even kick it with the person ur dating..... So what do u do? Sit at home and wait til the club closes (maybe I'd get a phone call, maybe not).

2003: The Busy Business Professional

at 20 going on 21 I thought it was so cool meeting a professional that wanted to be with me. ME? I work in customer service part-time, with no college degree. Are u sure ur lookin at me? Well it was me. Surprisingly this was one of the best relationships I've had..... when there was time for it. It was equal parts of fun & lonely. I traveled the country as the young show piece.... I was arm candy. The friends liked me.... cuz I was cute. They didn't respect my opinions, views on issues.... but I was CUTE!!! It ended, but we were able to be cool. We can trade advice now on money issues, relationships, careers..... I mean I'm still cute but at least I have an opinion that matters now.

2004: The LIAR

Now this one was a FOOL. This is probably the single STUPIDEST thing I've done. I traded down big time. And boy did I pay for that mistake. This relationship ended up with me leaving my family and friends behind, relocating across the country, falling into the deepest depression I've ever experienced as an adult, and flirting with alcoholism. This one was so bad that there are people to this day that don't know the details of it. I mean some of this stuff I've locked away in a box and dumped it in Lake Michigan. This was a hard one. At one point I wasn't sure if I'd make it out of it. Honestly I thought one of us would end up in JAIL or dead.

2006: The Minister of Confusion

Now this one really started out on a very high note. We were really in love. I mean a love that grew from a great friendship. There's nothing like finding someone that u love, the family loves, the friends love..... The scary part came in with the fact that they didn't really love themselves. I mean if ur unhappy with who u are, how can u be happy with who WE ARE? We had potential but their family overruled us. And to make a bad situation worst.... What would have been our 4 year anniversary, became their wedding date. CLASSY RIGHT?

2007: The Unsure Dreamer

I'm not sure how this one even happened. I mean I was single.... and we just kinda fell into this one. This relationship was so rocky. We couldn't even agree on dinner..... lol

2008: The Starving Artist

Now this is where things really get crazy. In the beginning, we both expressed how happy we were with life as it was. We were both in no hurry to be in a relationship. We both agreed that the single life was a good life to live. But thru multiple dates, phone calls, and text message things happened. Feelings grew..... So what else do u do besides date right? Then came love.... Then came reality. And the reality was we didn't work out at all. It was almost like we lived on 2 separate Earths. In my world we paid bills on time, worked hard and got promoted regularly, went to school, graduated.... and on and on. While on the other Earth they partied a lot, drank daily, smoked often, and barely worked. Who knew this great person from the beginning was really like this? Now there lived a great talent in there, but it was overshadowed by fear of rejection. So that's that..... One person ended up being a different.

SO that's my dating record in a nut shell. Thru it all I eventually wanna get back out there and do it all over again. NOT RIGHT NOW THO!!!!! I'm good. LMAO